Forgive and Forget
Forgive and forget. We’ve all heard that advice/saying. I think part of the trouble with that advice is that it is conveyed in a manner which suggests that you are being the bigger person by forgiving and forgetting. But when you feel wronged about something or by someone, do you really give a damn about being the bigger person? If you are honest about it, retribution is what you truly seek. Or if it makes you feel better, you could use euphemisms like “justice”. These lines from the serial, Revenge , capture what most people feel perfectly: “For the truly wronged, real satisfaction can only be found in one of two places: absolute forgiveness or mortal vindication.” But even though most people feel that way, they never go down the Vendetta Highway for different reasons: first, there is no Monte Cristo fortune to free someone up to act without caring. In fact the opposite is almost always true: the person most probably still has to interact with the “enemy” because they share the...