Captured by the Audience
How do we define ourselves, asks Gurwinder Bhogal? Sure, we have internal drivers and ideas, but we also temper that with feedback from others. Are we overdoing it? Is it acceptable? Are we fitting in or becoming outcasts? This approach made sense since time immemorial when the feedback we got was from a small set of people with whom we interacted regularly. But in the age of the Internet and social media, that approach is not working, argues Bhogal. We now get feedback from people we barely know. Even the famous people we listen to online, well, what they say online may not be “indicative of who they are”. Who doesn’t like to be popular? But popularity online carries a new risk: “They often find that their more outlandish behavior receives the most attention and approval, which leads them to recalibrate their personalities according to far more extreme social cues than those they'd receive in real life. In doing this they exaggerate the more idiosyncratic facets of