Dealing with Suffering
In The Subtle Art of not Giving a F***, Mark Manson talks of a Japanese Second Lieutenant from World War II, Hiroo Onoda, who was told to defend Philippines, to “never surrender”. The Americans landed with “overwhelming force”, and most of the Japanese soldiers got killed or surrendered. But Onoda and 3 of his men retreated into the jungle and continued the fight. For over 3o years.
He
never got to know that Japan had surrendered! He disbelieved the pamphlets that
the Americans, the Japanese and the Filipinos dropped over the years as lies
and propaganda. Sound too crazy to be true? That’s exactly why Onoda became an
urban legend in Japan:
“The war hero who
sounded too insane to actually exist.”
Another
Japanese, Norio Suzuki, went in search of Onoda, found him and convinced him
the war was over. Onoda had no regrets: he had fought for a cause, he had
followed orders. And so he returned to Japan. And boy, was he disappointed:
“A
consumerist, capitalist, superficial culture that had lost all of the
traditions of honour and sacrifice upon which his generation had been raised.”
Manson’s
point of this weird story?
“If suffering is
inevitable, if our problems in life are unavoidable, then the question we
should be asking is not, “How do I avoid suffering?” but “Why am I suffering –
for what purpose?””
Onoda
had assigned an ideal of Japan in his mind, the one for which he had fought,
the one for which he didn’t mind spending decades of his life. But the Japan he
returned to was like hitting a brick wall:
“Back in Japan, in
what he considered to be a vacuous nation full of hippies and loose women in
Western clothing, he was confronted with the unavoidable truth: that his
fighting had meant nothing.”
How we
deal with such disappointments is on us, writes Manson. We can dig our heels
in, continue fighting over a lost cause and make ourselves miserable. Or we can
curse everyone and everything around us for selling out. Or we can move on with
our lives. Manson describes the last option nicely:
“This is something called maturity. It’s nice: you should try it sometime.”
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